Having A Child Is More Than A Dream Come True
Becoming a parent is more than just a dream come true or achieving a goal.
It means that your heart belongs to your child forever and that you will enjoy every moment of life with this perfect living being.
In the world of science and psychology, scientists often study a woman’s desire to be a mother. We can say without a doubt that this desire is something private, intimate, and often unexpected.
However, scientists – constantly on the lookout for reasons – claim that this desire can often be traced back to three motives.
The first motive behind a person’s dream of having a child is to strengthen the bond with their partner. They want to have a lifelong project together.
The second reason that drives women to become mothers is the need to feel complete.
And finally, more transcendentally , many women choose to become mothers in order to give meaning to their own existence.
You may or may not agree to these reasons. However, there is no doubt that we can all agree that there is “something more” behind this decision.
Of course, the desire for a child is not always shared by one’s partner. There are also different situations and other factors.
There are even times when the last thing you expect is a baby, which then turns out to be the best thing that has ever happened to you, a dream come true , so to speak , that you didn’t know you were dreaming of.
Having a child goes beyond a simple desire. We invite you to think about it with us.
It was a long awaited dream that has now come true; finally you are here
Some children come after a long period of waiting and hoping. Long awaited after pregnancies that were difficult to achieve.
Mothers who cannot conceive. Men and women who dream of being parents … families who try and try and only find frustration … until finally a miracle happens and a dream comes true.
Regardless of whether your partner shares your deep desires or not, there are women as well as men who dream of having children and are just waiting for the right time … when our private life and financial situation match and pave the way for this magical moment.
But just then, when the moment seems perfect, they discover that it is not possible. The tests always turn out negative.
Conception does not take place. And there is no other option but to seek help; than turning to the modern science of artificial insemination.
At the same time, and something that is not often talked about, one must be aware of the psychological and emotional cost this path imposes on men and women.
The stress, illusion, hope, and frustration all together create something that is difficult to digest.
These are very complex situations caused by a strong desire to have children. In the majority of cases this pursuit ends successfully.
The “imaginary child” that lives in us
This beautiful painting by Herbert James Draper towards the end of the 19th century represents the magical moment when a nymph fulfills her dream of being a mother.
Draper himself explains that he imagines the woman walking sadly along the beach just before she reaches the moment depicted in his painting. Suddenly she finds a gigantic clam wrapped in seaweed on the stones.
Without thinking, she pulls on the seaweed and immediately the clam opens. When it opens, the nymph discovers a perfect little pink baby dreaming peacefully on the shimmering surface. The woman thanks the sea and takes the baby in her arms.
The same desire for the arrival of a baby is found in the mental exercise of the “imaginary child”.
One might think that this is something psychologically and emotionally unhealthy. But actually it can be very beneficial, as long as you don’t lose sight of logic and reality.
- It is not about imagining ideal virtues of an imaginary child, such as extraordinary beauty and intelligence, academic success or an always caring and obedient personality.
- The healthy way is to imagine yourself happy and in the presence of a child. The baby doesn’t have to be a future lawyer, concert pianist, or famous athlete. It can be whatever it wants. But we can imagine a child who tomorrow will be able to achieve everything that they set out to do. We can imagine ourselves teaching and helping him. We can see ourselves incidentally, like a shining light, present in all phases of the development of our dream come true.
In summary, a person’s desire to be a mother or a father is based on a variety of reasons and cannot be measured in a laboratory.
It is simply a deep desire to complete our lives – to share our lives with a happy and free child. We dream of giving this child wings to fly and roots to remind them of their origins. And so that it knows that we will always love it.
Our wishes come first in the form of dreams and later we enjoy them as a dream come true. Enjoy every day with your little darling …
