I Only Know That I Love You, My Child
In the expanded version of the book entitled “ Die Kraft der Elternliebe ” (2016), Sue Gerhardt, a British psychotherapist, examines this aspect through the relationship between the brain and human emotions. “My child, since I knew that I had a life inside of me … Yes, since then I only know that I love you.”
Dr. Gerhardt admits that the rhythm of modern life made her think about love and its nature in different areas – always with an empirical approach. That is why she has already published several books in which she devotes herself to the analysis of the cerebral aspects of love.
Dr. Gerhardt is recognized worldwide as an expert in her field.
Sue Gerhardt believes that the way we show (or not show) our love for babies leads to a series of biochemical changes in the baby’s brain. She notes that the baby’s brain between the ages of 0 and 2 is very susceptible to influences, especially to experiences with their caregivers.
The importance of the first “I love you”
In other words, Dr. Gerhardt says that love is able, babies already in her early childhood to impress so, that their mental health is largely dependent. That is, when a baby is cared for, cared for, and loved, it can develop good sanity. If affection and care are not present in early childhood, the baby will not be able to endure the stress of feeling vulnerable.
Remember that a baby cannot be alone. A baby needs a person who will take care of it and love it, whether it is mom, dad, family or a caregiver.
Babies of mammals in the animal kingdom manage to get up, walk, and even run in a matter of hours thanks to the protection and nourishment they receive from their mother. However, a person cannot take care of himself at all in his early childhood. Its development is much slower.
In her book, Dr. Gerhart also how important it is to be there for the baby so that it feels safe. According to her research, the baby needs to be helped in all ways in the postnatal phase. The fact of being out of the womb is such an abrupt change that babies need constant mother’s love and physical attachment to overcome this first major stress.
The interaction we have with our babies from the moment they are born leaves a significant impression on them. Therefore, it is important to leave a positive impression as it will persist over time and be a transcendental experience.
The following letter shows the importance of motherhood in early childhood. You will see that your baby also feeds on the love you give him. And the more you give him your attention and affection, the safer he will feel in the world and especially with you.
I love you more than anything in the world, my child
My child, I loved you even before you were born. From the magical moment I heard that I was going to be a mother, my heart was filled with love. Since then I have given you all my love and I show it to you in everything I do and in everything I am.
When I look at you I realize that my life is much better since I have you. You, my darling, are the reason I get up every day and face this increasingly aggressive world full of problems and demands.
For you, my child, I can bear anything. Because I love you and most of all I want you to be happy. I often believe that my love for you gives me the strength to surpass myself and improve myself.
My love for you is the strongest feeling I have and you don’t have to remind me of my duties. I already love you for being the fruit of life that I gave birth to. My child.
I am able to love you the way I do because I was loved because of the mere fact of my existence. Because you are a baby, you ask me to be with you all the time, because your instinct is telling you that it is the best way to survive. We both know that we are social beings and that love shapes our lives. Love makes us strong.
In time, you’ll be able to love someone as much as I do. I will be with you and assure you that you can do that. At my side you will learn that beyond survival there is something very beautiful and immeasurable that is called love.
The truth is I only know that I love you and that’s enough for me.
